Edmonton Sun:
SASKATOON — Police were investigating the death of an 11- year-old girl who roamed the streets last weekend looking for a place to sleep. Delores Bird was found dead Saturday night in an apartment suite in a sordid area of Saskatoon’s west side.
Her uncle, Ralph Bird, who lives in the suite next to where the girl’s body was found, said she died after a night of drinking and taking pills.
“Why didn’t she come here first? I wouldn’t have let her go. I would have sat her down and told her, ‘Don’t drink anymore,’ ” he said, squeezing his eyes to hold back tears.
The girl’s mother was reportedly away for the weekend.
All week the media punditry, social activists, and local politicians have been churning out meaningless pap, debating this tragedy in a soul-searching exercise of ‘how we failed Delores Bird’. Soon, I expect, someone will announce an inquiry. There will be experts and witnesses, scholars penning profoundly meaningless papers, and community activists demanding funds for more Programs Of Enablement.
“We all must take responsibility for these children … can’t force children into rehab, they must come to it on their own … listen to the children … ask them how we can help … teach better parenting skills… more support for poor families … a failure of all society”.
Bullshit. These enlightened attitudes towards “families in poverty” of the past three decades have failed. Welfare and treaty based payments have turned childbearing into a cottage industry. Youth crime has not abated – it has worsened, in both scope and severity. In addition to unabated rates of property crime, we have Indian gangs running the streets of Saskatoon. They have graduated from stealing cars and vandalism to home invasions, stabbings, sawed off shotguns. Your grand social schemes are killing people and failing children.
The question of how we failed Delores Bird can be answered in the question no one has asked.
When are criminal charges going to be laid against the mother?
That’s who failed Delores Bird. If the person responsible for the care of this little girl isn’t guilty of criminal neglect, I don’t know who is.
Our social systems and institutions hold a deeply racist attitude towards First Nations families, and it is most strongly expressed in lowered expectations, lesser demands for parental responsibility. When families permit or perpetrate abuse and neglect, they are considered mere extensions of their victims.
The extended victim status is pervasive and long standing – for a different example, I offer Neil Stonechild’s mother. She has openly blamed police and society for the death of her 17 year old, alcoholic, gun-dealing son. She recieved an apology from the city police chief. No one asked “what the hell for?”, or why Stella Bignell wasn’t standing beside him, issuing a few apologies of her own for failures of parenthood, the harm inflicted on his victims, the cost to those institutions that tried to assist after the fact.
These same local and provincial governments that presume a moral obligation and legislative authority to “protect” rational adults from the health effects of second hand smoke are frozen by “cultural sensitivity” when it comes to their obligation to protect the most vulnerable citizens in our society.
And while they dither, 4 year olds wander the streets alone and 12 year olds are turning tricks. Neglected, underfed, unschooled – the official reaction is hand wringing about how we can “best support them” or “help their parents to learn better parenting skills”. Throw more money. Build a new community center so they can “play basketball” through the wee hours of the morning while their parents are MIA.
I don’t think so. If they are going to have a chance in life, we cannot leave small children in the hands of dead end parents. Culture and sensitivity, be damned. These people are not alcoholic glue sniffers because they live in poverty – They live in poverty because they are alcoholic glue sniffers. Their dysfunction is so profound that it is folly to leave these kids at their mercy while they “learn better parenting skills”. The rate of success in such experiments is far too low, and much too temporary. The first priority should be getting these kids into a safe environment – foster home, extended family, treatment centers. Build new residental schools, if that’s what it takes and tell the detractors to go to hell.
Then, start sending a legal message to deadbeat parents in stark terms. Rescue these little kids from the streets the first time they are spotted. Charge the parents or guardians for neglect.
Related: In Toronto, another 11 year old victim.