Some now choose to loudly disagree:
For all intents and purposes, a mother’s job with her son is over by the time he’s around 11 years of age. At that point, the boy’s father becomes critical. It’s in the second half of a boy’s life when he learns what it means to be a man. He will fail to learn this if his father is absent or when his mother doesn’t let go of the reigns.
A mother can’t teach her son to be a man. She’s indispensable to him when he’s young, but his father is indispensable when he’s older. It’s simply unreasonable to expect these boys to become the men that boys with strong fathers become. They just won’t.
Which is why they are perfect recruits into gang culture.
That explains a certain prime minister we know.
Deplorable, you beat me to it! Lol
It occurred to me later that there were at least 2 prime ministers with mommy issues. One is busy destroying a country because he can. The other one tried to hold it together but had to contact his mother via ouija boards.
King was odd…He regularly corresponded with my Socialist Aunt who was married to a CCF MP…
Who knows what he was thinking! or Why…. He did save the Farmers Union attempt to control World Wheat pricing that went wrong….
pride minister????
seems like most divorced city mothers in their 40’s left their husbands to go explore their sexuality and then end up becoming alone bitter, downright psychotic and clogging up dating sites.
Go look at listings with how many advertise what percentage of time they share their kids. Yikes!
Is this why they talk about incest porn being such a popular thing now?
29er and B.A.D. Rupertslander – right on.
The gangsta subculture terrorizing large areas of Canada’s cities and in some rural areas, too. That is a recent creation, one from the Cult. Marxist policies over the last 30 years. They emanate from the high horses of the Supremes, from the MSM, infiltrated Humanities/Social Science Dept. Universities, Social Service policies subsidizing fatherless families.
The most bizarre but overt examples come from P.M. Justin Trudeau, who partially justified sabotaging the oil/gas industry. This because his opinion is the influx of blue collar tradesmen, construction workers into rural areas posed a threat to women. in-Justin Trudeau on Friday opined that the firearms he is capriciously banning in the hands of men pose again, a danger to women.
The Cult. Marxist strategy has always been to use the tactic of class warfare, now morphed into identity political group warfare. This until the family structure and the protective male role model in teaching the values of Western Civilization is destroyed. The State them becomes the tyrannical father, but only after destroying/denigrating the wise father of Western Civilization.
Then the State, the self appointed elite, create their utopia out of the power vacuum they’ve created, out of the absolute power over all aspects of life they’ve seized. Their justification, only they can be trusted with power.
Once the perfect is made out to be the enemy of the good. They replay that meme and outlaw resistance as hate speech.
From the article:
“If that sounds harsh, switch the sexes. Would we be as cavalier about a mother’s lackluster presence in her daughter’s life? What would happen if we had a nation of motherless daughters or girls whose fathers were overly controlling? ”
Cavalier? Yes.
The goal of leftism (in its various forms) is to destroy families. Girls hate motherhood and boys are directionless weaklings.
They become perfect candidates for the Liberal Party.
I’m going to add to this. It’s bad enough for the sons, but look at what happens to the daughters who don’t have a father figure in their lives. After taking on some domestic help via a church contact I now have, by their own declarations, five “adopted daughters” in my life. They contact me for advice on dating, finances, jobs, education, even how they should dress for an event. They’ve “adopted” me, I didn’t adopt them, and they even tell car salesmen that they have to “check it out with their dad” before they buy something. They are desperate for a father they never had and they’re not shy about saying so. Sometimes it makes me want to cry, but they were cheated, badly for not having their fathers present in their lives. The real hoot comes when one is having a birthday dinner at a restaurant and they proudly tell the waitress that they’re waiting for their “dad” to show up and in walks a white guy (they’re south Sudanese) and the waitress’s jaw drops. Father absenteeism is a crime against the next generation.
IMO, somewhere around puberty a mother’s relationship with her son changes but I disagree that “For all intents and purposes, a mother’s job with her son is over by the time he’s around 11 years of age”. A boy naturally gravitates away from being a little boy who needs to be mothered and gravitates towards the masculine world. But, a strong relationship with both parents is important because it’s all about balance and stability. Ditto for girl’s relationship with her father. The opposite sex parent’s role changes with teens but it is not anywhere close to being “over”. Well adjusted kids get really interesting in their mid to late teens. I quite enjoy this age range with both my sons and my daughters
My metaphor is that with young children parents have a labour intensive job (zoo keeper?). As the children age parenting turns more into a management, human resources and psychology job.
I agree, the mother’s role is not over, it changes. I have four sisters and a much younger brother. My mother explained that her job was not just to look after us, but to teach us to look after ourselves, and then to help her look after the younger ones. By my mid-teens I knew that traditional male expressions of courtesy and assistance to women were expected and I knew this not just from my father’s example but from my mother showing that she expected and appreciated it. Most women I know treat me well and seem to think highly of me, regardless of whether or not they are attracted to me.
How your parents treat each other is the first example you see of how a man should treat his wife and how a woman should treat her husband. If it’s a good example, you have a good start in life. If either or both behaves badly to each other and/or fails at parenting all you get is one bad example of potentially countless ways of living you should avoid.
I struggle with language and spelling but this one I notice. Second only to “irregardless” on my list.
Horse reins.
Rain makes the road wet.
The Queen reigns.
Yah, I noticed that one too.
Very, very cool DrD. I’m a white guy, 71. My father died from injuries sustained in a car wreck when I was 6. My mom remarried when I was 12. I got the dreaded step-father. He treated me so well it was amazing. He loved, nurtured, taught, supported and directed me through some hellish teen years. I hold he and my mom in equal esteem. They have both been gone 20 years and I still miss and love them daily. I am so thankful.
I saw guys with no male figure in their life. It’s very hard to overcome. Not impossible, but very hard.
BTW: With the war between the sexes… I will be willing to sell my sperm for 50K per load….First Come, first served…..
But will you be there for the next 25 years?
Better a Mom thats “there for you'” than an errant Dad.
Not all one parent children turn out bad. I raised my son on my own – Dad left for greener pastures at my sons 8th year. Never looked back.
I have an awesome son, hard working, conscientious, Loyal, many, many good friends.
I thank God it turned out alright.
I have two young adults who I wish were my stepchildren, but their mother died before we could make it official. By all accounts their father’s parents made a bad job of it, and he was so stunted emotionally that their mother was nearly a single parent the whole time. I think she did a good job of it. It helps if the parent who is still with the children understands the missing role as well as their own and takes effective measures to expose the children to good examples through extended family, and the local community. (I have no children of my own and think myself very, very lucky and privileged to have been given a part to play in the lives of other people’s children.)
Looking back through history, until the latter part of the 20th century few people could afford divorce (either because it was financially out of reach to live separately or it was socially unacceptable) so most marriages lasted until one partner died, but that often didn’t take anywhere near as long as it does with our much safer work environment, modern medicine, and abundant food and energy production. So there was lots of remarrying and step-parenting.