Why Everybody Loses ALL of Their Friends

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1. johnny cash…….hurt……

2. We do not make many close friendships with deep bonds after the common experience of the school years (most of us don’t stay in any large group for such a long time again.) In general, the more arduous and/or dangerous a shared experience, the deeper the ties we form with those who are with us in it.
   I miss my comrades from my Army days and remember that although we got posted in and out of units and stations, whenever we meet again we took up where we left off, as close as or closer than brothers. This remains true if you meet up again as civilians, but one keeps in regular touch with very few, especially after separating the service.
   I have nothing to do with four of my five siblings (coincidentally, the four who are female, university educated, feminist, NDP voters, employed practically all their lives in publicly funded jobs in which they don’t answer directly to the people who their work supposedly serves.)

3. There is this book in the side column called “Asshole Consulting” by Aaron Clarey. Why does Aaron Clarey lose all of his friends?
   Not a mystery. The mystery is why does Aaron Clarey think his individual experience is universally applicable and even marketable.
   Aaron loses all of his friends because Aaron is an ASSHOLE by his own admission.
   Does being an asshole make Aaron Clary uniquely suited to advising others on how to live? No. The fact that Aaron Clarey thinks that he is qualified to give life advise to others while knowing he is an asshole may be a indication that Mr. Clarey is mentally defective and may even be a sociopath.
   Does everybody lose all of their friends? No. But perhaps Aaron Clarey has lost all of his friends.
   A Friend in Need is a Friend indeed. Old saw.
   Aaron Clarey is anti-Charity and probably doesn’t know the meaning of this old saw.
   Not surprising that an asshole wouldn’t be a friend in need or a friend in deed.

4. At Zero Hedge…………”on a long enough timeline the survival rate for everyone is zero”. My mother is 97 and has outlived all her peers and all but the youngest of her siblings, she has lost all her friends.

5. My experience is more Thetooner, than Oz’s. I have one friend from my public school days that I still see socially. We have known each other since grade six and served in the army together. I have lots of friends at work, but I don’t see them socially, and really don’t have any desire to either. When I decided it was time to get married I went back to college at night school so that I could meet someone to get married to. That actually worked out very well. 15 years and two children later out oldest who is graduating from grade eight is lamenting that he won’t see his friends any more.

6. My first thought, exactly.
   You’ve got to walk that lonesome highway
   You’ve got to walk it by yourself
   Nobody else will walk it for you
   You’ve got to walk it by yourself
   A true Johnny Cash classic passage

7. Well said. I agree minuteman and same here. Even though separated by almost two thousand miles and over forty years my wife and I still get together with old army friends when we go to where they and many relatives live. Some have come the long way to see us and a few have already passed away. We also made a few new friends in the current location forty years ago and still have most of them. Some pass away, a few split up and disappear.
   You have to be a friend to retain a friendship, even if some days you wonder why.
   But in the end, Johnny Cash had it almost right, a very few walk the last few steps with you.

8. I refuse to have a bloody thing to do with 5 of my 6 siblings.
   last time I was in BC, (oh it sure as blazes is the LAST time) I was across the channel from my kid brother’s place. told them all 4 MONTHS prior I was coming out to visit.
   4 months warning.
   so I casually enquire is there a ferry or some such thing close by?
   comes the response, oh, “I’m going to Seattle to visit friends”.
   ?
   ferfcukssake, you waited THIS long to tell me? you cant bloody wait ONE DAY?
   this was typical on the buff family. so I sent him a little memo reminding him of getting stood up and told him dont bother to even send any go**amn christmas cards. that was back in 2010.