Years ago a self-described feminist told me to F*ck Off for the heinous crime of opening a door for her. In my mid-twenties at the time, I was deeply confused by this. Later I told a friend of mine, a clinical psychologist, about the incident. His advice was simple:
If this ever happens again, look the woman straight in the eyes and say, “Just because you’re a feminist, doesn’t stop you from being an asshole.” Then walk away.
The original event, and the follow-up advice has never left me, but thankfully it has never happened again. My friend’s advice came to the fore when I read what Maclean’s and Globe & Mail writer, Nora Loreto, recently tweeted. So, in the interest of community service:
Ms. Loreto, just because you’re a feminist, deem yourself to be “progressive”, clearly loathe the colour of your skin, and obviously hate non-urban Canadians, doesn’t stop you from being an asshole. The fact that you have zero sympathy for the families of all who died and are injured and seem to treasure the attention you’re now getting because you sickly believe that YOU are the main victim surrounding this tragedy, speaks of a deep seated narcissism that a team of psychiatrists would be hard pressed to ever cure. Your parents have clearly failed you and, even worse, Canadian society for unleashing such a selfish spoiled brat into our midst. Shame on them.