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Yeah I feel so sorry for the angry hags taking sex holidays in Morroco.

I find it interesting that they shut down comments right away on that article. Could it be that the author isn't interested in the REAL reason why she's single in her 40s?

REAL Women of Canada’s been doing research on this for decades. The variable that makes the major difference in women’s wages is marriage (and then there are the children): women make many accommodations in their work life after marriage and children. In fact, unmarried, professional women with no children make more than men.

That men make more for the same work than women is another urban myth.

Men making more for dirty, dangerous work women d/won’t do—e.g., miners, garbage collectors—is another matter altogether, one the radical feminists and their cheerleaders prefer to distort/ignore. (Nothing new here.)

"bright, attractive, successful, fabulous women in their 40s who are single"

She must have an amazing social circle.I guess "successful" is fairly objective and can't be argued with, but I bet I could quarrel with the rest of the adjectives, unless England is a lot different than here.

Finally, someone who makes Camilla look attractive in comparison. I didn't think it possible.

If the "fabulous" womyn could get over themselves then progress might be made.

Though I rather doubt it judging from the photo.

Too much Shirley Valentine happening.

Here's the thing, women in their 40s(relatively speaking) are not attractive, especially if their single. In the looks and personality department, it all goes downhill after 30; therefore, if you're over 30 and married, stay that way, as it’s an acquired taste that only a husband can love. The statistics for women getting married after 30 speak for themselves.

I can think of nothing less enjoyable than the thought of being stuck in the room with a bunch of 40+ women, so why on earth would I look to date someone like?

The bottom-line is, many middle aged men are looking to have a family; or, willing to start another family with a young lady because they want the responsibility of having a another family. I would argue that it's very normal for a man in his 30s or 40s to be looking for a mate in their 20s, as women in their 20s are prime candidates for motherhood. This is a wholly different set of goals the mythical MILF/GILF is looking for. IF these women were serious about finding a mate, they'd look for men in their late 50s/early 60s for compatibility. I'm willing to guess that most of these women are ugly (on the inside) liberals, and suggest that's why their single. Anecdotally, most conservative women I know are married, and I wouldn’t be surprised if liberal women take the lion’s share of the middle-aged and not married demographic.

If you look at people as marketable commodities, a woman's peak value is higher than a man’s; but, they peak sooner and devaluate faster than a man. That’s why in Hollywood (for actresses) they say “30 is the new 50”. Don't blame me, blame mother nature! Women have no qualms about acknowledging the beauty of the female body relative to the mans, so I see no problem acknowledging this simple fact. Also, I’ve noticed a very blatant bigotry from old bats’ towards youger women when discussing this issue. I stand with young attractive women!

The bottom-line is, this woman is delusional if she cannot see why straight, kind, solvent single men in their 40s run like prey when they capture the attention of the dreaded cougar.

"especially if *their* single"

should be *they're*

fixed

Query:

Are there any "straight, kind, solvent single men in their 40s" on SDA looking for a woman in their 40s(typically) No kidding around, speak-up if this is preferred to someone 10 years younger.

From the article, I got the impression that for the author and her friends, "solvent" (aka loaded) is a key requirement in a man.
Well-heeled men can have their pick of women, and they know it. They are not going to be interested in a middle-aged woman, no matter how well-educated and accomplished she is, if they can date 20-something beauties.
Is dating only beautiful young women shallow? Not more so than dating only financially successful men.

I find women in their 40's are always looking for "the one". That scares the hell out of me. Guys in their 40's are more casual about things. They want to hang out, have fun and if things work out get serious. They aren't thinking marriage on the first date. After all they hardly know this person.

I think if someone mentioned to me that they were on a "detox holiday" I would finish my drink, make an excuse and leave.

I concluded long ago....

That what women want is...

A stupid millionaire that likes to dance.....

Men see women as sex objects, women see men as success objects. This has been true forever and I don't understand why every generation is shocked, SHOCKED, to discover this anew. It's basic evo bio.

You mean all of the solvent heterosexual males are taken? Shocking, absolutely shocking.

In this day and age where 1 mistake can cost you half your life's work they are asking why. The reason is that women lobbied to change the rules of marriage and divorce. So the rules have now changed and they are not happy.

Indiana H. I have to vehemently disagree with your premmis(?) that women over fourty are somehow all used up. I work retail (paintball) and have seen many stunning hockey/soccer/lacrosse moms. Yes they are in their late 30s or 40s but I do enjoy going to work.

Secondly, any man worth anything in the marriage dept. is likely taken. Henceforth the drought of single, straight, solvent males. I know, I've been off the market for 33 yrs.

Last, these gals have to quit looking. It makes them appear needy, but I'm probably missing the point anyway.

I have been married for almost half a century and neither of us is contemplating any changes.

Kevin may have it at 9:05. I know some in that boat.

As a retired veteran of the online dating battlefield, I found that most of these women described themselves as "open minded, strong and independent" and as looking for a "laid back easy going" guy.

Translation: libleft feminist hivemind member seeking lapdog. (Run fast and far)

There are plenty of nice ladies out there, but the ones I favour are typically from rural areas or foreign countries .. and not Brits, Scandies or most west Europeans.

.. the woman in the article photo looks like she could chew through sheet metal.

Ditto max @ 11:55, I date 40-ish women but only if they're non-western,I'm 59.

I'm done with articles stating "women are this" or "men are that".
It's schtick for blamers and losers.
Charlie Sheen pays for sex. Arnold has sex with an ugly maid. Julia Roberts marries a cameraman.
I've got friends who are weirdly matched and happy, friends who were "the perfect couple" and divorced.

Real life is a mess. Enjoy it.

Olde Spice

I'm not saying old women are "used-up", I'm saying they’re not attractive (relatively speaking).

I was reconsidering my comments when I saw some footage of a bunch of 20 something’s in bikinis and realized how right I am. This is not arguable, if young women are the epitome of beauty, then women in their 40s are not beautiful to look at. I'm speaking in relative terms.

Put’em in bikinis and the truth of things will come-out. If you dare. Me, I can do without 40+ women in bikinis, thank-you very much.

Also, I said women in this age group should be looking for older men (50-70). Something tells me you fit the description you old dawg:)

Been married 15 yrs btw.

Cheers

''But, as she rightly points out: 'He doesn't let any woman close enough to knock his socks off, which is probably why he's having casual sex with a twenty-something work colleague.''

Or perhaps, having sex with twenty-something year old women is WAAAAAAAAAAAAY better than having a 'relationship' with a forty-something year old divorce?

"Are there any "straight, kind, solvent single men in their 40s" on SDA looking for a woman in their 40s(typically) No kidding around, speak-up if this is preferred to someone 10 years younger."

Indiana Homez at June 20, 2011 5:38 PM

Until recently I was looking for just that. I even foolishly believed that maybe I could get married and share my life with someone special. Unfortunately I learned that the lies and games that I got disgusted with in my twenties are still in use by the women in my age group nearly 25 years later. So, as I decided in my twenties... I'm off of the market.