CTV;
Andrea Johnson was remembered as a loving mother who eventually succumbed to a depression she could no longer fight, tragically committing suicide and taking her son’s life.
Johnson jumped from the Morningside overpass onto Hwy. 401 below on Dec. 3 with her two-year-old son Sulla Genua. The mother died at the scene while her son passed away en-route to hospital.
Her sister, Tanesha, gave the eulogy at a funeral service for both the mother and son.
“When Sulla was very small, Andrea would read him books, teach him the days of the week and his numbers.”
Calling Johnson a beautiful young woman, she said her sister was a source of pride.
Tanesha apologized to her late sister for not recognizing the depth of depression Johnson was experiencing.
Now, ask yourself a question. Had it been the father who, in the “depth of depression” had dragged a screaming two year old Sulla Genua into the middle of the street and shot him in the back of the head, before turning the gun on himself – would the Toronto Star be mourning his unfulfilled university degree? Might the Globe And Mail headline note his “devotion” as a father?
Would they have commented on his looks?
Patrick Kelly of the National Post is one of few who get it right. Murder-by-Mommy is no statistical aberration;
While the Canadian public worries about perverted strangers or abusive fathers taking the lives of young children, it is biological mothers who are doing much of the killing. Women murder their children nearly as often as men; more often when the victims are under five years of age, according to experts on child killings, and to Statistics Canada data.
The reality check doesn’t last long, however. A few paragraphs into the article, University of Toronto criminology professor Rosemary Gartner pops in to restore these “almost more gentle” killers to their proper status as victims.
Update – John B, points out in the comments that in 2005, a “loaded missile” threw his 5 year old daughter from a bridge on the 401, and then jumped.
Just watch a harried mother wit her youngster in a Wall-Mart, and the kid touches something. The reaction: something short of Hannibal Lector.
Yeah these women have to turn off the soaps, and stop superimposing the tv life of millionaires (named ” Adam Chandler” et al.) It’s driving them all nuts! It used to be called “keeping up with the Jones’s”.
The whole continent, no, the entire planet is coming down with this disease.. Lots of it here in Alberta, I’ll tell you!!
Boob tube-itis….
Perverse. Is the Canadian media completely incapable of reportage that is critical of the female gender?
When I heard about this murder/suicide my wife and I were sitting on the couch having our second cup of coffee: I looked over at her and said that this would be the press response. Maybe I’m clairvoyant? NOPE! Just experienced in the bigotry which is the media.
BTW: The parental murder figures for last year were 16 mothers killed their children, 8 fathers killed their children and 7 step-fathers killed their step children (with a step mother case still before the courts): In others words, a normal year. So why is it that the press always say that mothers are almost as likely to kill their children?
BTW2: The step-father murders are mostly predictable as most of them follow a well known pattern and sub-type of murder. Why is nothing done?
wasnt there another Johnson jumped on the tracks a ways back?
she was a medical professional specializing in treating PPD post partum depression.
till she got hit hard with it and was too embarrassed at her own velnerability. until there was no other way out.
I thought at the time if only she had sought help discretely, and been successfully treated, then she would have been an incomparable expert because she would then KNOW precisely what it was like.
but t’wasnt to be.
tranna is a deadly place with all those transportation corridors and fast moving vehicles if your name is Johnson and you got a toddler in tow.
sigh.
if the articles are true about how a “great mother” she was someone should contact the Vatican to have her nominated for SAINTHOOD whatever that entails….I am glad my mother was just my mom and not a “GREATEST MOM ON EARTH or I might not be alive today………….those reporters are pathetic
We were watching this report yesterday and I was stunned the way the MSM portrayed her as such a wonderful loving person. This certainly seemed over the top and with not one word of condemnation for her actions. From the information in the linked articles it would seem she had perfected the art of milking the system and to no avail. All those wonderful Canadian Social Programs couldn’t save her or that little boy.
Maybe if she had been “forced to work for a living” she wouldn’t have had so much time to feel sorry for herself.
In this economy you have to make a concerted effort not to work. Paricularly someone with a University degree.
I’m just waiting for the Feminists and the MSM to pin this on PMSH and the cuts to SOW.
The ‘disease’ you refer to is spread by the lies about the quality of life:
If you can kill a baby 6 months before it is born, or 6 weeks before it is born or 6 hours before it is born, it is hard to ‘blame’ when the baby is 3 minutes old, 3 weeks old or or 3 years.
Proponents of abortion will say if these desperate moms had an abortion they wouldn’t have reached that ‘state’.Stats will prove otherwise…these murders by mom have increased proportionatly with rate of abortion.
People like her are the scum of the earth. Want to kill yourself? Hey, no problem! I’d even help you do it, if it wasn’t illegal. I’ve got no problem helping Darwin along. But why in the hell do you have to take an innocent child with you? What kind of sick, perverse psychopath do you have to be in order to take an innocent life? AND to do it in such a way as to totally f**k up a third person as well? Can you imagine how the poor bastard in front of whom she landed must have felt? Gah. I’ll definitely be giving the Toronto Star a piece of my mind today.
This reminds me of a great line by Arthur Hill in the closing scene of an episode of Law and Order back when Michael Moriarty was the prosecutor.
The suspect was a Physics Phd who had sent a bomb to kill a professor who had thwarted his career (the Phd was a bellhop to support his family). The bomb killed the professor’s ex-wife instead.
In the closing scene Stone says: “He’s not your typical killer.”
Hill: “Yes he is. He killed a guy.”
Forget how the “poor bastard in front of whom she landed” felt. It was only luck that she didn’t take out another family or two through her choice of diving board.
For a while, I have noticed the gender-bias when it comes to reporting stories like this.
Fathers are portrayed as evil characters (even if it is not murder – but one of those “custodial interference” kidnappings). Mothers are always victims – even when they drown 5 of their own kids in the bathtub.
I don’t know if anyone remembers the big international incident between the US and Cuba about 6 years ago when that kid (was it “Elian Gonzales”?) was rescued from a makeshift raft off the coast of Florida. His mother had tried to bring him along with her as she attempted to make it from Cuba to Florida on a few floating pieces of garbage. He survived, she didn’t.
Everyone went nuts when the US authorities said that they were going to take the kid and send him back to be with his father in Cuba (the father was estranged from his wife and did not condone or have any part in the mother’s plan).
Watching the whole thing play out – the vigils, the people crying about how his mother wanted him to be in the US, therefore that should trump the father’s wishes…and all of the rest of the crap.
I mentioned to a friend of mine at the time that, if it had have been the father who took his son without the mother’s knowledge or consent; if it had been the father who put his on a craft made of lashed-together odds and ends trying to make the crossing to Florida; and if it had have been the father who perished in the attempt, everyone would be portraying that father as an animal who recklessly endangered the life of his son. No one would question the kid being taken back to his mother – whether it was in Cuba or not.
My buddy’s sober advice, “The world is not symmetrical that way. We just have to get used to our place in the world.”
…cue “MOMMY, MOMMY” jokes…
Kate,
I’m offended.
It’s politically incorrect (and bad form) to speak ill of someone who murders a child, where:
the killer occupies one of the designated classes of perpetual victimhood.
BTW are people looking backwards and just assuming she suffered from depression. There’s also a big difference between depression, and being incapable of appreciating one’s actions.
…cue “MOMMY, MOMMY” jokes…
Posted by: tomax7
you’re a class act buddy.
I have family members who suffer from depression; my opinion is that if this lady was clinically depressed then the likelihood of the murder-suicide being a rational decision is next to nil.
Depending on the depth of depression, those who have it experience an amazing degree of paranoia and extremely irrational thoughts. It is amazing yet sad the way in which the affected brain works (or doesn’t work).
It is extremely hard to watch a loved one suffer from it – counseling and drugs can help to a degree, but there’s always something irrational lurking just under the surface, ready to pop up without notice.
So while I don’t condone what she did, I rather doubt any sort of rational decision making process came into play if she truly was clinically depressed. Taking the life of her son was, to her irrational mind, the rational thing to do.
And the eulogizing by the MSM doesn’t trouble me at all; she quite likely was everything they claim her to be. Her family probably did love her but lived in the pain of knowing there was only so much they could do to help her.
I’m certainly not alone being on the receiving end of the evil man syndrome, at one point and time.
So what? If certain women can live with themselves and the excuses that keep them whole, thats their problem, along with the people that soak it up.
I learned long ago some battles you can’t win, and have to let Darwin eventually settle.
People that sleep in the bed they made and learn to live amidst certain realities, win in the long run.
I don’t know if the media has the guts to admit they help fuel the chaos.
Thanks for “screaming into the wind” anyway Kate.
Hey Matt:
OK…I have no problem with what you have said. But, the point is that the media (and society in general) would not view it the same way if it were the father instead of the mother – whether clinically depressed, irrational or whatever.
I remember when I worked in a trauma unit as a psych assistant this woman came in on a Feb. night when there was freezing rain and the roads were like glass. She had her two month old baby in one of those baby kangeroo pouches and she came up to the desk, her lips blue, both of them covered in ice particles. All she could say was ‘help’. She had postpartum psychosis and finally cracked. It’s a far cry from other mommy murders, and she knew enough to stagger into a hospital in the depth of her despair. Society throws money at single moms, virtually encouraging teens to take the path to early, single parenthood rather than struggle through the tedium of long-term goal realization. No matter how much money this woman received or how much her family supported her, she obviously felt that she didn’t want to continue living and her son couldn’t/shouldn’t live without her. These women will always perceive themselves as victims and it is to them that the left look for support and votes. Dig a little deeper and you’ll probably see a cycle of single parenthood either by choice or by circumstance.
No problem here that a little (lot?) more taxation won’t fix.
i’m just going to make a comment that come to mind. It seems the feminists are always saying that some women are just not “motherly types”, dont have a mothing instinct, or could not be a full time mom at home.
That’s fine. People have a choice, and if it works for them all the power to them.
But these same feminists see to hide behind the very thing they renounce whenever something like this happens. Women are nuturers, they give life, not take it away.
If you feel we are not equal- fine. Just don’t flip flop and try to take both sides of an arguement so you feel you always win.
Women kill. Men kill. PEOPLE kill. Either try to dismiss all with “root causes” or condemn them all for taking a life. But dont try to water down the effect of murder just because it was a woman who did it.
This is coming from a woman who has suffered from PPD.
“Women are more gentle (in murdering)” – Rosemary Gartner.
Either way the child is dead. But is she right? Wasn’t it a week ago, down in the states, that a mother killed her child in a microwave?
I don’t know what state of mind this woman was in, in order to do such a thing. It must have been awfully dark, with no hope. In that way I can feel some compassion and sadness for her. However, I’d have to agree, the victimhood bias based on gender and race is brutal. Regardless of any circumstance, she murdered a child, commited suicide and put innocent strangers in harms way. An act to be condemned, not celebrated.
Well, if all women suffering from “depression” are potential gentle murderers, child welfare resources may as well be quadrupuled. There are thousands of Canadian mothers who are currently on anti-depressants.
Poor gentle victims. A someone pointed out above, if they’re allowed to kill their babies before their born, who are we to tell them it’s illegal afterwards?
I’m glad Rosemary Gartner isn’t my mother.
Is the Canadian media completely incapable of reportage that is critical of the female gender?
I don’t have much experience with the Canadian media, but the American media is close to completely incapable of reportage that is critical of anybody except a non-Hispanic heterosexual white male. Office-holders who are members of the Democrat party also can’t be criticized.
On a completely different point, while Andrea Johnson won’t, of course, be prosecuted, if she’d lived, her sentence, if any, probably would have been less than if she had killed a dog.
Vf:
“Stats will prove otherwise…these murders by mom have increased proportionatly with rate of abortion.”
Come on, lay off the BS stats. This is just as relevant as stating that the growth on the hairs on my ass have increased proportionaly with the rate of abortion. It could very well be true, but means nothing what so ever.
Why aren’t any other bloggers covering this story? A number of MSM outlets are unanimous in their glowing praise of a female baby murderer and nobody is blogging about it? Is the overwhelmingly male Canadian blogosphere too pussy whipped to touch this story?
There was more negative press and massive protests in AB recently against a kid that was cruel to a cat. When we put cruelty to animals ahead of cruelty to people we have really sunk to a very low level. I don’t see any protests in front of this womans family home as was the case of the teenager. One, if not the main, problem is that no one can get help for a person who needs help unless that person agrees to it, if that person is over 18. Family and friends can do nothing. No one suffering from depression admits they need help.
Why aren’t any other bloggers covering this story? A number of MSM outlets are unanimous in their glowing praise of a female baby murderer and nobody is blogging about it? Is the overwhelmingly male Canadian blogosphere too pussy whipped to touch this story?
Posted by: Bob
maybe others aren’t as racist Bob. This site takes the cake.
Depressinon is an ugly monster. Opinions concerning this issue are like A-holes…..everyone has one. The bottom line of this discussion is not about cause, or how many women vs men are depressed, it is about how the media covers similar events.
Facts do show that the MSM will show women murders as victims, and men as horrible monsters who were just looking for a reason to kill.
They conviently ignore the “science” that proves women are just as capable of commiting murder as are men.
If this had been a man, the media would have been all over it, digging up anything bad or negative about the man who had committed the murder. Proving what a bad and horrible human being he was. In this case, it was a women, so in the eyes of the MSM, she must be a victim.
Update: DamianPenny.com just linked to this story, good for him.
“maybe others aren’t as racist Bob”
There you have it; an admission that criticizing visible minorities in any context is racist. The anti-male anti-white hate is palpable.
I heard the clip on CFRB of a sister saying the mother was great and the father saying the child had a happy smile.Maybe the kid would be still happy/smile if the father took more interest.It was cold blooded murder
Depression can completely screw up your perception of reality. I have personally suffered depression before and, with thoughts of suicide running rampant through my brain, I thought of the terrible pain my family would experience if I killed myself…so I started thinking that I would kill them as well so they wouldn’t suffer.
Insert whatever tasteless crack you like…that’s the truth. Don’t dump too heavily on the depressed (mentally deranged) mother as I doubt she could have done much about things in her state of mind…save the outrage for the MSM and their pathetic reporting.
Indeed. It’s not accurate to call her a murderer, because legally, if she had survived her plummet, she would not have been convicted. Murder takes both the act, and the state of mind – and she was not in a right state of mind.
Perhaps the media is showing only sympathy because she is dead. If she had lived, would they be so forgiving? Look at Andrea Yates in the USA…the media villifies her very much, and same with Karla Homolka. They just aren’t speaking ill of the dead.
Andros,
When did it become racist to speak the truth? When was race mentioned in this post at all by Kate?
Just another lefty that hates when the right is right, so rather than argue a losing point, he resorts to the racial smear, the left’s lowest common catchall. Typical leftist tactic…
I’m glad your on their side, intellectual lightweight…
“Women are more gentle (in murdering)” – Rosemary Gartner.
Is being thrown off an overpass into 60 mile an hour semi’s the new “gentle”?
I’m updating my Thesaurus.
How many biological parents have killed their children in the past 10 years. How many fathers have killed their children because of a custody dispute. How many were killed because of false charges of abuse by the mother, in order to get custody. How many were killed because the new boyfriend didn’t want to be saddled with someone elses kids. I wish the groups like sow and waa would start working on family unity. Kids need two parents, mother and father. These feminist groups have spent years telling women that they don’t need men, all men are bad, men use women, etc. Well, women use men too. Think of all the “Heathers and Monicas” out there, just waiting to find some rich sucker, sleep with them for a while, then go after media attention and money. There is much truth to the joke, a dying 92 yr old man told the nurse his wife, (25) had made him a millionaire, unfortunately when we married I was a billionaire.
“It’s not accurate to call her a murderer,”
Then why are these classifed as “murder-suicides”?
(And keep that argument in your back pocket for handy use the next time someone goes into an Amish schoolroom with a death wish and a hunting rifle.)
Here is an interesting comparison. In May, 2005 a father threw his five year old daughter off the bridge from Don Mills Road on to Highway 401 and then jumped himself. Same scenario with the roles reversed. Fortunately the girl wasn’t hit by traffic and survived, the father was killed.
Compare the comments with the Johnson case:
“It’s a miracle: A 5-year-old girl taken by her father, who was bent on killing her and himself, was thrown 15 metres from an overpass into oncoming traffic and survived without a broken bone.”
“This guy was a loaded missile,” Duty Insp. Brian O’Connor said at police headquarters last night. “He was going to kill himself and he was going to take his daughter to punish his wife for whatever he thought she had done wrong in the relationship,”
“O’Connor said the man repeatedly called his estranged wife on his way to the bridge, telling her over and over again he was going to kill the girl.”
“(It) amounts to psychological torture,” O’Connor said.”
Quite a different press treatment for the same situation I would say.
http://www.trap17.com/index.php/5-year-old-girl-survives-bridge-fall_t9002.html
Just because suicide correlates with severe depression, homicide doesn’t. It’s one thing if Andrea Johnson was a grossly psychotic individual at the time of her actions quite another if she was an impulsive, enraged, albeit depressed, narcissist, same with any of these alleged victims of depression suicide/homicide mothers.
Reporter Kelly Patrick at the National Post, representative of the vacuous MSM and Dr. “they are just like you and me” Meyer, representative of those using clinical studies as a political agenda, aren’t going to let any tough questions interfere with a their agendas.
Depression is a disease. People suffering from depression are victimizeed in our society by attitudes towards depression and in general, mental disease. Physician suicide rates are twice as high as the general population, even tho they are very aware of the disease and its implications. A few years ago in a hospital coffee room, a psychiatrist asked me what to do about his sore shoulder that was interfering in his golf swing. Two hours later he commited suicide. Retrospectively, he approached me because he was depressed, but didn’t know how to approach me with the problem, after all, he was a psychiatrist.
The news media should be focusing on the devastation of a disease that is still stigmatized, that our system underfunds, and is the commonest cause of death in our teenagers and rapidly increasing in other segments of the population.
And how many deaths, of husbands, wives, or kids, been prevented because the person considering such a horrible act could sit down and have a cigarette to calm their nerves. Any studies done on how many of these depressed people are reformed smokers. I know, all the smokepolice will come out, but better to be a smoker than a murderer.
I fear that the same hostility, lack of empathy and understanding that are being displayed here now are the same attitudes that this woman probably met with each and every day and probably contributed to her depression. I’ve read comments here re: soap operas, the TV, “milking the system”, etc. People that throw out these stereotypes need to think of how that feels when you’re a woman who’s struggling. When you’re at the receiving end of these slurs it only escalates the feelings of low self worth that you’re already feeling. Often when we choose to stay at home and raise our own children, rather than throwing them into the arms of strangers, we’re judged as “lazy” and thought to be contributing nothing to society. Perhaps if more mothers stayed at home and taught their children, instilling morals and values instead of focusing on the material things that their family “needs”, soceity would we better off? It’s a “to each her own” situation, but often the stay at home single mom has a label attached to her that’s unjust and damaging. It reeks of this attitude here. The focus of this entire story should be on how one gets to this point and what can be done to prevent it. Not an argument over how men face prejudice as fathers….that is an issue in itself but should not be the focus here.
I don’t condone this woman’s drastic actions, but I can understand how someone gets to a point that their vision is distorted and they honestly feel that they’d be better off dead. And, as a mother, the thinking process at this point is that you’re “abandoning” your child if you take your own life and leave them in a place that’s unbearable. I’m sure she honestly thought, in her illness, that she was doing what was “best” for them both. It’s not right, but let’s change the thinking and try and help these women instead of continuing to do what we did before they reached the point of no return…judging them and isolating them with stereotypes.
The argument of “if it was a man” is ridiculous. Each case involving a tragedy like this needs to be examined individually, not lumped into a “man/woman” thing. There is no “argument” here…a “person” was so severely depressed that they took drastic measures and killed their child…society should be looking at how this can be prevented, not arguing over the prejudice of how it’s reported. Let’s focus on what’s important here.
Depression is serious and severely impacts one’s sense of judgement and the decision making process. I just think that some of the hatred spewed here is what needs to be changed in order to support those feeling desperate, alone and isolated. To anyone who thinks that single moms on welfare sit around eating bon bons and watching soaps all day…shame on you. You’re stereotyping of those less fortunate than yourself is inexcusable and you have no idea of how hard that world can be….the pain that comes with that stigma and how it affects both the woman AND their children when they feel that they’re
unworthy and inadequate.
This woman obviously was desperate…was what she did right/acceptable? No. But should we look at what gets someone to this point and try and “fix” things before they get there? Yes. And I’m sure that this attitude was one that she encountered every day…people like this need support, kindness and understanding. Not to be treated like they are second rate losers. The end result here was tragic and unforgiveable. But it was obviously an act of desperation by someone who wasn’t stable enough to recognize that at the time. And, as a society, that’s all of our problem, not just hers.
(and as I read my own comment I realized something. Things also happen in reverse here – when a man stays home and is a single father, looking after children, he’s considered a “hero” for doing so. Yet a woman doing the same job is often viewed as “lazy” and unproductive. I don’t like to generalize, but many of the cases I’ve heard of involving men killing their children then themselves is a different situation…it’s not that they’re there, living in poverty and struggling each day with depression. Often it’s to “get to” the ex wife and is part of a power struggle…which is a desperate act but one that’s more of a “selfish” move. So they’re not “comparable” as they’re two different situations. The incident listed here clearly indicates the man “wanted to punish the wife”. So he used the child in order to do that, which makes it absolutely deplorable and self centered. Although distorted, this woman’s intention was obviously to spare her child the pain that they were both living. Inappropriate, but her intentions were out of love, not spite. Which is why it warrants some sort of empathy.)
The moral relativists like Deb are out in full force, defending a fellow “sister” to the grave. According to these man-hating feminists women are *never* responsible for anything they do; they talk some junk about depression and it’s all good.
No empathy for children, no empathy for murder victims, just a one size fits all free pass for the female gender to murder as they see fit. I think we need to identify the morally-defective “pro-child-murder” people in our society like Deb and the reporters involved in this anti-male hate propaganda and detain them; clearly, they are quantifiably psychopathic and a threat to national security.
I am not a feminist…a “label” by you. If you can quit categorizing people and conveniently shoving them into compartments to make your case, you’d see that these are “people”. Men, women, children. I don’t defend a fellow “sister” and I don’t hate males. I simply look at each incident beyond “single mom” or “desperate dad”….and I have more empathy for someone who is so desperate in life that they think they will find something better in death. A fellow who “teaches” his ex a lesson is a different story to me, that’s all. If this were a man, in the same situation, he’d still get my empathy. And it is tragic that children die as a result of these situations…I just wish more emphasis was put on preventing these situations than arguing over them once they happen. The focus should be on what brings a person to this point, not on who’s right or wrong.
You’ve used name callling and anger Bob, something I didn’t do. Which is typical and fuels the hate, but does nothing to resolve the problems.
“talking some ‘junk’ about depression” clearly shows your lack of empathy/understanding. That “junk” is real feelings of people who can’t cope with an often difficult life. God forbid you’re ever in a place that has you down and out…I only hope your words come back to bite you in the ass.
Deb…you have nobody but yourself and people like Belinda and Judy to blame for “Yet a woman doing the same job is often viewed as “lazy” and unproductive.”Judy Seegrooo herself backed up BS when thye said women who are industrious and strive to get ahead are to blame for women’s inequality. A murderer is a murderer,regardless of colour,sex,religion,ethinicity, etc. Or do you just want to be a “victim” too?
Solution:
SUPPORT MENTAL HEALTH!!
….or I’ll kill you
and I hadn’t bothered to read all the comments. “Pussywhippped” is another good one Bob. I’m not a feminist, but you appear to be a woman hater.
And to the person (maryT) who said “no one suffering from depression admits they need help”…..are you serious? That’s a bold statement. Many do but there’s a definite “stigma” attached. Depressed often is equated to lazy, unmotivated and even crazy. It’s a hard step to take and when people stop treating depression like it’s a flaw and start to treat it more like an illness, we’ll all be better for it.
Psssst…Deb…Three consecutive angry comments is generally considered to be evidence of mental instability; for a better, more efficient knee jerk defense of all things female, try containing your virulent anti-male hate to one comment, mmm-kay sweetie?
That’s where you’re wrong justthinking…we’re all responsible for our own attitudes. You for yours and me for mine. Each and every one of us decides how we view others, that’s not something inflicted upon us by outside sources. “you have nobody but yourself…..” I blame the people who actually think that way. And if you are one of them, then shame on you.
It’s o.k. to be a thriving, productive woman in the workforce. It’s also o.k. to want to see your children grow up and instill your values into them. Unfortunately one is regarded as “hard working, worthy and contributing to society” and the other (often, not always) is not. And the “Deb…you have nobody but yourself and people like Belinda and Judy to blame” statement you made sure takes the focus off those who actually think this way, doesn’t it? Hhhm, that’s a new one. Good distraction, not working though. I’m not to blame but people with this mindset surely are. We could have a nice balance if people would recognize both as being worthy jobs – both the stay at home mom and the working mom. I think they both are – it’s a matter of personal preference.
I’m done with this. I’ll go to my grave knowing I cared about people – whether they have money, jobs, mental illness or whatever. You can go to yours knowing you were right.