Dr. Dawg

Today is All Soul's Day, by the way.

My deepest sympathy for you and your family.

Very very sad. Tell someone you love them today... You never know when your last day will be.

I've lost a wife and two close friends to cancer. The experience changes you forever. If you're lucky.

Sincerely sorry to learn of this. Nursed my ( late ) first wife through two bouts with two unrelated malignancies. No, you're never the same either, regardless how it turns out.

backhoe: I figure I started improving as a person while I was nursing my wife......and I'm hoping that I managed to maintain it....4 1/2 years later.....small things, that I might have considered prior to doing them/or not, before..now I do instinctively.

Kathy: A very good point.
My mother was recently diagnosed with breast cancer & she has had the surgery. She was sent home only to be taken a few days later back to the hospital by ambulance only to discover that the cancer was very aggressive & has spread into her bones.
We are now waiting for her to start kemo, when i sat with her in her hospital room (she was resting as they have her so doped up for the pain)I thought how many times had i said to my mother that i loved her, How many times had my mother done something for me did I thank her, I could not remember, I drew a blank & my eyes swelled. Mother woke up & asked how long i had been there, I told i had just arrived.
We talked & laughed for sometime until she fell back asleep, that whole time not once did she complain of the pain even though it was evident. I left thinking why did i not say something but i was afraid i would start crying & did not want to upset her.
The good lord willing & my mothers strength as she has always been a strong women, a volunteer, a good wife & a great mother never wanting but always giving she will pull through this fight.
So yes as Kathy has said "tell someone you love them today"

My deepest sympathies, Dawg. I couldn't imagine going through what you have to every day...I would just shut down...I think I'll give my wife a hug when I get home. Again, best wishes.

Sincere condolences Dr. Dawg. I am very sorry to hear that.

bryanr, your heartfelt post reminded of this poem.

Test-of-the-heart

Tis easy enough to be pleasant
When life flows on like a song;
But the one worth while,
Is the one who will smile
When everything goes dead wrong.

For the test of the heart is trouble
And it always comes with the years
And the smile that is worth
The praise of the earth,
Is the smile that comes through tears.

Nemo2?
backhoe: I figure I started improving as a person while I was nursing my wife......and I'm hoping that I managed to maintain it....4 1/2 years later.....small things, that I might have considered prior to doing them/or not, before..now I do instinctively.

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One thing it taught me was "we never pass this way again..." If you have a chance to speak of love, or pass on a little affection or kindness- better strike while the iron is hot. You may not get a second chance.

Dr. Dawg,

My sincere condolences on your tragic loss.

Psalm 27:14

"Wait for the LORD; be strong, and let your heart take courage"

And of course come back to blogging when time and spirit permit.

My condelences to Dr Dawg. She sounds like a the kind of person who made the most of her life. One of the lines above reminded me of this: (author unknown)
I shall pass thru this world but once.
Any good, therefore, that I can do,
or any kindness that I can show to any human being
Let me not defer, or neglect it.
For I shall not pass this way again....

I'm so sorry Dr. Dawg. I know that you will be unbearably lonely. We are thinking of you , our hearts are on your side. I will say your name in my prayers - The Lord will know that many people care about your sorrow and He will help you bear this loss.